I’m sorry she is just shy.

I’m sorry she is just shy.

I’m sorry she’s just shy.

The sentence I say around 50 times a week.

Most kids I’ve met around Harpers age tend to have a little bit of shyness, it seems Harpers is at a whole other level.

Now when I say she’s shy I don’t mean she just hides behind me and will come out of her shell in about 10 minutes.

I mean she will scream and cry, it normally lasts a good 40 minutes there is nothing more  heart breaking to watch her be so afraid of other people.

a little girl sat on a wall wearing a white fierce mini top with red writing and some pink linen trousers

She’s really selective about who she is shy around which I often find really confusing. She’s fine around my family, my friends that she sees often but anyone outside of that circle, she doesn’t really want to know.

The worst part? I’m about 1000% sure her shyness is my fault, because of my social anxiety. We’re getting better at going out now and meeting new people but she is continuing to dig her heels in.

When she was tiny, she had an absolutely amazing relationship with Adams dad, he has this incredible talent with littles that they just fall asleep when they’re led on him.

Around when she was 15 months old all of that changed, we don’t know what did it but for some reason every time he comes round she gets really shy and point blank refuses to go to him. She hides, cries and has a meltdown even if he just looks at her. Until he’s about to leave then she gets really upset that he’s going.

a little girl led on the floor under a clothing rail with a purple dummy in her mouth

I was quite shy when I was around her age apparently, not to the level that she is. Whilst I’m trying to overcome my anxiety and get outside her shyness does stop us in our tracks.

I’m ashamed to admit that I do end up getting a little bit frustrated with her, I’ve muttered under my breath several times “what the fuck is wrong with you?” I’m not proud of it but after 40 minutes of screaming, I think both Harper and I are at our wits ends.

We’re hoping and praying, it is something she grows out of and quickly so we can get back to having a happy go lucky little girl.

young girl wearing a white top with the words fierce mini in red & pink linen trousers sat on wall.

Fierce Mini Tee from Surviving Society clothing Trousers from Ebay & Shoes from Clarks.

Do you have a little one who’s really shy? How did you get around it?

Let me know in the comments!


Kerry xxx


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  1. April 23, 2018 / 1:20 pm

    The wee soul! It must be really scary for her 💔 and she’s not really old enough to be able to tell you exactly what the problem is so that helps nobody 👎🏻. Sounds like you’re doing all the right things lovely, you just need to persevere & hope that eventually she will come around 🤞🏻 💕. Xxx

    • April 25, 2018 / 11:26 am

      I’m sure it is it’s so awful seeing her like it and theres not really much I can do except keep us in our bubble where she feels safe. Thank you thats so lovely. I hope so! 🙂 xxxx

      • April 25, 2018 / 1:29 pm

        That’s it, just keep testing the water with her & let her know you’re there. Hopefully she’ll realise that she’s safe as long as she’s with you & that’ll give her the confidence to do things on her own 🤞🏻💕 xxxx

        • April 27, 2018 / 12:18 pm

          I hope so! It’ll be amazing the day we can finally have people round, or go out without worrying she’s gonna be terrified! xxxx

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